Perhaps you’ve already gotten there and are living the dream, having the life and being the “YOU” you always wanted to be. We wish you all the best. Is achievement and happiness still not enough for you? What is your next mountain to climb?
Not there yet?
What do you mean you had big plans, but “Life” got in the way? What’s that you say? You’re not sure what you want? That only means you will definitely not know when you have gotten there.
If you have made some progress but are permanently stuck and not sure if you are living your dream or how you even got there–it’s OK. You’ve come to the right place.
As children we have mighty big dreams for ourselves. We confidently say, “Oh I’m going to be an astronaut, president or invent something grand…” and shrug as though it were a given. Job done. So be it.
Then life delivers knock-downs, disappointments, rejections, heartache and woe. Our little white umbrellas of hope get battered and torn as the storms of life take their toll and it seems easier to retreat than forge on.
We’ve all been there. Yes, all of us; even the really successful, happy and contented people. And here’s the bottom line: It’s how you choose to deal with all of those setbacks and hardships that is the key to becoming all you ever wanted to be.
Our perception of the world can create “can do” or “can’t ever do” attitudes. It can make us feel like victors as well as victims, millionaires or paupers. Our beliefs and perceptions can trip us up, keep us down, enable us to climb the highest mountain or stay stuck in the corner sulking and sucking our thumbs.
One of the first casualties of negative perceptions is a serious downturn in confidence. Fear grabs us and keeps us stuck in excuses, pain and indecision. We start to question ourselves, as our internal critic acts like a weight on our dreams and actions.
In coaching clients who say their lack of confidence is holding them back, it’s important from the start to establish what being confident means.
It doesn’t mean being a bragging, loud fool who would have a bar cleared of people in 30 seconds. Why not aim for quietly assertive?
Here’s “The How”
Here are a few coaching questions to help you take a step nearer to who you want to be:
- What would you do differently today if you had the confidence?
- What in your life would change if you had the courage to speak up?
- What are you believing in that could be keeping you stuck?
- What are you prepared to commit to in order to change what you have and to get what you want?
It’s the small twists and tweaks in our thinking that can have the most momentous and long-lasting results. What could you do today to take one step closer to being who you always wished you could be?
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Kathleen Tucka is a Saucon Valley resident and Lehigh Valley-based Life and Business Coach. Learn more about her and the services she offers clients at www.sunnylifecoach.com, and like the Facebook page for Kathleen Tucka, Sunny Life Coach for insightful tidbits to enhance your life and your business. To contact Kathleen, please call 908-319-0050 or email
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